Mrs. Parker-Benton

My Imperfect Life as a Stay at Home Wife

My Monday Motivation: I am Fatherless but…

It’s November and like most I have made my plans for Thanksgiving. Go just one city over,  to my mother’s house with my Husband and 4 children. Thanking God for her and the fact that I don’t have to cook. Maybe I will one day when my kids are a little older and I can tackle a Thanksgiving feast without having to stop to nurse or change a diaper. It’s something about the holidays that make you think of family or the lack there of. Thanking God for the new memories you can make with loved ones around the dinner table. While at the same time feeling sorrow for the memories you can’t make because of a loved one’s absence.

A recent situation in my life sparked some questions about my father.

Simple questions.

What about your dad?  Where is he?

 Simple Answers.

“Nothing to tell! I never met him.” “I don’t know! and No, I don’t want to find him.”

I hadn’t thought much about him in the last year. I’m just a few months away from turning 30 and the childhood wonder of my absent father reappearing in my life is losing its appeal. He’s never been there for any major events or holidays, so why should this Thanksgiving be any different?

“It sucks to be him!” is all I can think. He doesn’t get to see the woman God has molded me to be. One who has survived numerous abusive relationships and traumatic events in her life. But then I think, would I have had to experience those terrible times if I had a father around to protect me? That thought is short lived because my hardships lead me to where I am now. In a great marriage with a loving husband, 4 beautiful children and a miraculous testimony.

In Jeremiah 49:11a God says, “Leave your fatherless children, I will keep them alive.”. God had indeed keep me alive despite my father’s absence. As Thanksgiving approaches and my family comes together, I don’t have to be sad.

 I am fatherless but I am not without a Father.

God is my Heavenly Father! He has blessed me with an amazing mom, an incredible younger sister, an extraordinary extended family as well as a couple of great godly men to act as fatherly role models in my life.

So, simple questions.

 What about my dad? Where is he?

Simple answer.

“A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling.” Psalm 68:5

Prayer: Our Heavenly Father, Thank you for family and times we share together. You have blessed us with relationships, so that your love can abound between us. Lead us to forgive those who have abandoned us. Let our sorrow not last long as we think about the absence of those who are not with us by choice, distance or death. Comfort the fatherless, motherless, and all the hopeless, especially during this holiday season. Help us to always be thankful and forever committed to Your will. Amen

Be Inspired! Be Radical! Be Blessed.

@mrsparkerbenton

Hope My Monday Motivation encourages you. Tweet me your Monday Motivation using #MyMoMo.

Memory Verse: For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.” Matthew 12:50

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3 Ways to Build Up Your Child’s Self-Worth

The Mom Life is such a rewarding life. Every milestone from crawling to walking is amazing. However, in its imperfections the mom life can be hard. I like to think of myself as a Momma bear, caring for and protecting her cubs from any hurt, harm, or danger. What do you do when you can’t stop the imperfections of life? When bullying, a poor grade, or a lost competition makes your child feel so bad that they forget just how valuable they are?

Well, I build up my children’s self-worth.

1. Prayer & Devotional Time

Praying for and with my children are important parts of my day. Praying for their safety, choices, friends, and future are just a few areas I like to focus on. Prayer reminds me to trust God with the precious gifts He has given me and how to care for them in a way that is honoring to Him. I enjoy praying with my children all together and individually; its awesome to hear them pray. Devotional Time and/or Bible Study is a great opportunity to spend time with my kids. It gives us a chance to see how much God loves us and for them to see how much worth He gave us.

Embracing who God made them to be

is the beginning of building up your child’s self-worth. 

                      

 

Listen & Be Open 

Listening is the key to any great relationship and the parent-child relationship is no exception. I like to set aside specific times, like before bed or parent-child activities to have candid conversations with my each of my children. I find it helpful to ask questions about my children’s dreams, goals, friends, likes/dislikes, and how they feeling about any and everything. Of course, as they get older the conversations with each child changes. While my sons dream of being Ninja Turtles, my daughter is now seeing how her dream of being a doctor can come true one day. I have found that listening is best effective when I am open and my children feel comfortable to talk to me.

Listening will allow you to give the best guidance

to build up your child’s self-worth.

                                      

Love: Say It & Show It!

I try to tell my children that I love them several times a day. Encouraging my children to try their best and motivating them to work through life’s imperfections is another way I express my love. I truly believe love is an action word. God the Father gave us this example when He gave Jesus to die for our sins. Spending time reading, painting, telling jokes, having rap battles and dance offs as a family shows my children my love for them. I even have special nicknames, songs and symbols for each to remind my children of their uniqueness and talents.

Love is essential to building up your child’s self-worth. 

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The Child Life is a exciting life. Its a time for new beginnings, like the first loose tooth or the first Christmas. Yet, the imperfect moments like an embarrassing experience at school or getting your heartbroken can seem like the end of the world. As Christians we must be committed to helping our children grow to have a strong and clear understanding of who they are in Christ. It’s our job as parents to pray continuously, listen openly and love unconditionally in order for our children to be reminded of their worth.

And if at any time my children start to doubt their worth

Momma will be their waiting, with a big bear hug.

Be Inspired! Be Radical! Be Blessed! 

@mrsparkerbenton

Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.

1 Thessalonians 5:11

My Monday Motivation: Just Have Faith

Matthew 14:22:28-33 Peter answered him, “Lord, if it is you, command me to come to you on the water.”29 He said, “Come.” So Peter got out of the boat and walked on the water and came to Jesus. 30 But when he saw the wind,[c] he was afraid, and beginning to sink he cried out, “Lord, save me.” 31 Jesus immediately reached out his hand and took hold of him, saying to him, “O you of little faith, why did you doubt?” 32 And when they got into the boat, the wind ceased. 33 And those in the boat worshiped him, saying, “Truly you are the Son of God.”

Just have faith! Just have faith! The words set to the tune of Dori from Finding Nemo singing “Just keep swimming” ring in my mind. Just have faith! Just have faith! A simple yet powerful phrase my husband keep singing as we circled the busy parking lot at Cracker Barrel. I was getting frustrated because I could tell it was going to be a long wait for the fluffy pancakes and savory bacon I was craving. I dreaded having to wait in the restaurant’s store; full of knickknacks that would incite my 3 young children. I was upset that Brent hadn’t just picked the first open spot in the full lot as he keep circling and singing. “I have faith, I’m just not very optimistic”, I snapped. As soon as the words left my mouth, I hated the taste of them. Did I have any faith at all?

In Matthew 14:25-26, Peter and the other disciples see Jesus do the impossible and walk on water. This comes right after seeing Him do the impossible when He feeds a multitude with just 5 loaves and 2 fish. (Matthew 14 13-21) Peter is bold enough to say, “Lord, if it is you, command me to come to you on the water.” While walking on the water Peter becomes afraid. Losing faith in Jesus, Peter becomes more focused on the wind around Him than the God before Him.

I have seen God work in countless impossible situations in my life also. However, the battle to find a close parking space seemed unwinnable. What was happening to me?  Like Peter, despite what I had seen Jesus do in my life, I had become afraid and let fear steal my focus. I desire to have such bold faith but once I take the risk, I soon find that my faith is shallow. In fact, I’m not even optimistic. While walking on this “water”, He has revealed the impossible things He will do for me in the future. Sadly, I am sinking and my faith is wavering.

Maybe, your like me! God is showing you all the things He has in store for you. A new job, new home, new ministry, or a new addition to your family. You say you have faith but your not very optimistic. If we are honest, we both know that means we have little to no faith at all. Let’s continue to be bold. Stretching our faith far beyond what we can see and walking confidently on the water wherever God is calling us. He’ll make sure you find a close parking spot in a full lot (like my husband did) if you, “Just have faith!”

Prayer: Jesus thank you for the impossible things you do. Please, stretch my faith so that I may walk confidently on the water towards you and your promises for my life. Even though the waves may rise around me and the wind blow against me, don’t let me lose focus of You. You have called me to do great things in Your Name and I no longer want to doubt You. Today, I trade my fear for faith. 

Be Inspired! Be Radical! Be Blessed.

@mrsparkerbenton

Hope My Monday Motivation encourages you. Tweet me your Monday Motivation using #MyMoMo.

Memory Verse: Philippians 4:13, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens.

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Hello! Thanks for checking out my blog.

On here you will find insight into my “imperfect life as a stay at home wife”. I share my personal experiences; struggles and successes as a wife and mother of 4. I am not your average mommy blogger with a nailed down schedule, pristine home, or a fairy-tale marriage.So if your looking for a collection of planner printables, freezer meal ideas, happy-go-lucky posts or other perfectly useful tips…this is not the blog for you. I mean I do aspire to be that extremely well organized mom, who has everything together while wearing a cute yoga outfit but realistically its trial and error (and error and error) over here. I’m a weirdo, oddball, emotional, introverted, Jesus freak with a messy past, piles of dirty and clean laundry in every room, a sink full of dirty dishes, hidden dirty diapers, and a mixture of crumbs, stains, and toys all over my floor. In the midst of my imperfect life my family and I have unconditional love for one another, excessively loud moments of laughter, random dancing and rap battles, as well as intense ninja and superhero training. If all that sounds interesting to you, please join me in my wild adventures as part of the one and only Team Parker-Benton. I hope I can inspire and encourage you to be the best imperfect you while you live a joyful imperfect life.

Be Inspired! Be Radical! Be Blessed!

@mrsparkerbenton

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