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3 Ways to Build Up Your Child’s Self-Worth

The Mom Life is such a rewarding life. Every milestone from crawling to walking is amazing. However, in its imperfections the mom life can be hard. I like to think of myself as a Momma bear, caring for and protecting her cubs from any hurt, harm, or danger. What do you do when you can’t stop the imperfections of life? When bullying, a poor grade, or a lost competition makes your child feel so bad that they forget just how valuable they are?

Well, I build up my children’s self-worth.

1. Prayer & Devotional Time

Praying for and with my children are important parts of my day. Praying for their safety, choices, friends, and future are just a few areas I like to focus on. Prayer reminds me to trust God with the precious gifts He has given me and how to care for them in a way that is honoring to Him. I enjoy praying with my children all together and individually; its awesome to hear them pray. Devotional Time and/or Bible Study is a great opportunity to spend time with my kids. It gives us a chance to see how much God loves us and for them to see how much worth He gave us.

Embracing who God made them to be

is the beginning of building up your child’s self-worth. 



Listen & Be Open 

Listening is the key to any great relationship and the parent-child relationship is no exception. I like to set aside specific times, like before bed or parent-child activities to have candid conversations with my each of my children. I find it helpful to ask questions about my children’s dreams, goals, friends, likes/dislikes, and how they feeling about any and everything. Of course, as they get older the conversations with each child changes. While my sons dream of being Ninja Turtles, my daughter is now seeing how her dream of being a doctor can come true one day. I have found that listening is best effective when I am open and my children feel comfortable to talk to me.

Listening will allow you to give the best guidance

to build up your child’s self-worth.


Love: Say It & Show It!

I try to tell my children that I love them several times a day. Encouraging my children to try their best and motivating them to work through life’s imperfections is another way I express my love. I truly believe love is an action word. God the Father gave us this example when He gave Jesus to die for our sins. Spending time reading, painting, telling jokes, having rap battles and dance offs as a family shows my children my love for them. I even have special nicknames, songs and symbols for each to remind my children of their uniqueness and talents.

Love is essential to building up your child’s self-worth. 

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The Child Life is a exciting life. Its a time for new beginnings, like the first loose tooth or the first Christmas. Yet, the imperfect moments like an embarrassing experience at school or getting your heartbroken can seem like the end of the world. As Christians we must be committed to helping our children grow to have a strong and clear understanding of who they are in Christ. It’s our job as parents to pray continuously, listen openly and love unconditionally in order for our children to be reminded of their worth.

And if at any time my children start to doubt their worth

Momma will be their waiting, with a big bear hug.

Be Inspired! Be Radical! Be Blessed! 


Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing.

1 Thessalonians 5:11


My Monday Motivation: Just Have Faith

Matthew 14:22:28-33 Peter answered him, “Lord, if it is you, command me to come to you on the water.”29 He said, “Come.” So Peter got out of the boat and walked on the water and came to Jesus. 30 But when he saw the wind,[c] he was afraid, and beginning to sink he cried out, “Lord, save me.” 31 Jesus immediately reached out his hand and took hold of him, saying to him, “O you of little faith, why did you doubt?” 32 And when they got into the boat, the wind ceased. 33 And those in the boat worshiped him, saying, “Truly you are the Son of God.”

Just have faith! Just have faith! The words set to the tune of Dori from Finding Nemo singing “Just keep swimming” ring in my mind. Just have faith! Just have faith! A simple yet powerful phrase my husband keep singing as we circled the busy parking lot at Cracker Barrel. I was getting frustrated because I could tell it was going to be a long wait for the fluffy pancakes and savory bacon I was craving. I dreaded having to wait in the restaurant’s store; full of knickknacks that would incite my 3 young children. I was upset that Brent hadn’t just picked the first open spot in the full lot as he keep circling and singing. “I have faith, I’m just not very optimistic”, I snapped. As soon as the words left my mouth, I hated the taste of them. Did I have any faith at all?

In Matthew 14:25-26, Peter and the other disciples see Jesus do the impossible and walk on water. This comes right after seeing Him do the impossible when He feeds a multitude with just 5 loaves and 2 fish. (Matthew 14 13-21) Peter is bold enough to say, “Lord, if it is you, command me to come to you on the water.” While walking on the water Peter becomes afraid. Losing faith in Jesus, Peter becomes more focused on the wind around Him than the God before Him.

I have seen God work in countless impossible situations in my life also. However, the battle to find a close parking space seemed unwinnable. What was happening to me?  Like Peter, despite what I had seen Jesus do in my life, I had become afraid and let fear steal my focus. I desire to have such bold faith but once I take the risk, I soon find that my faith is shallow. In fact, I’m not even optimistic. While walking on this “water”, He has revealed the impossible things He will do for me in the future. Sadly, I am sinking and my faith is wavering.

Maybe, your like me! God is showing you all the things He has in store for you. A new job, new home, new ministry, or a new addition to your family. You say you have faith but your not very optimistic. If we are honest, we both know that means we have little to no faith at all. Let’s continue to be bold. Stretching our faith far beyond what we can see and walking confidently on the water wherever God is calling us. He’ll make sure you find a close parking spot in a full lot (like my husband did) if you, “Just have faith!”

Prayer: Jesus thank you for the impossible things you do. Please, stretch my faith so that I may walk confidently on the water towards you and your promises for my life. Even though the waves may rise around me and the wind blow against me, don’t let me lose focus of You. You have called me to do great things in Your Name and I no longer want to doubt You. Today, I trade my fear for faith. 

Be Inspired! Be Radical! Be Blessed.


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Memory Verse: Philippians 4:13, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens.

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